Sick of Feeling Small: A true story about why we give a shit
Nate shares the true story of the day he changed his life and explains why S2B exists.
Back in 2003, when I was a senior in high school, I took a weight-training class.
I don’t remember exactly why I signed up, but it probably had to do with two factors:
1. I wasn’t qualified to take any other classes.
With a 1.7 GPA and a tendency to read novels during math exams, I wasn’t exactly a stellar student. College was out of the question — my grades sucked and my family didn’t have much money — so I didn’t even bother to take the SATs.
2. I was sick of feeling small.
At 5’9” and 145 pounds, I looked wiry and lean, but lacked any real substance. When I walked down the halls, I remember blending into the crowd, becoming just another set of feet and slumped shoulders. I didn’t take up any space or stand out in any way. I felt insignificant. Ordinary.
So when my senior year started, I found myself in the school weight room, wearing shorts and a sleeveless t-shirt, lying underneath a barbell and struggling to lift it.
Even on that first day I realized I liked working out. It was much better than sitting in class, at least. But while I enjoyed it, I didn’t see it as anything more than exercising and sweating.
But after a few months of consistently lifting weights, something happened that would change the rest of my life.
I first saw it in my bathroom mirror on a random Monday morning when I was getting ready for school. I noticed that my chest and arms looked…bigger. I stepped on my digital scale and the numbers “152” flashed on the screen. I had unexpectedly gained 7 pounds.
It was new. It was cool. And at this point in my life it was powerful.
Something was happening to my body, and I was the one controlling it.
As corny as it sounds, in that moment, it didn’t matter that my grades sucked. It didn’t matter that I drove a shitty, dented car and washed dishes at a pizza restaurant for 6 bucks an hour. It didn’t matter that I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life or that I felt like a failure.
I was changing a fundamental part of me — my body — and I was actually enjoying it.
That day I went to the gym and worked a little harder. I talked a little less. I added a little more weight to the bar. I wanted to see what would happen when I actually tried.
Later that night, as I sat in the basement of my parent’s house, I Googled “how to build muscle.” And the first thing I read was — I kid you not — an article from Dr. John Berardi.
Of course I didn’t know at the time that JB would come to be my most influential mentor. All I knew was this: I wanted what this John Berardi guy had.
Here was this dude — only 10 years older than me — who was smart, confident, muscular, and who owned his own business. He seemed successful. Something I definitely was not.
I remember thinking, “That guy must have an awesome life. I want to live like that, too.”
So I printed out a workout program and started lifting with some friends after school when we had the gym to ourselves. I grabbed some money — money I was going to spend on beer and weed and CDs — and bought some peanut butter, oatmeal, and eggs instead.
I had no idea how to start a business or gain more confidence or any of that other stuff.
All I knew was that I was going to build muscle and change the way I looked.
I thought that if I started there — with one simple thing I could control — maybe I could feel successful for once.
Maybe if I changed my body, other stuff would change too.
After high-school — with the help of some very influential coaches, mentors, and a good group of friends — I gained over 40 pounds of muscle and drastically changed the way I looked. I finally built a muscular, athletic body — the kind of body I could be proud of.
But that’s not where my transformation stopped.
The aftershocks spread through every other part of my life and showed me what was really possible. I realized that if I could change my body, I could also transform my career, my relationships, hell, my entire life to all be something that inspired and excited me.
That’s when I stopped doing what I was supposed to do and started doing what I wanted to do. That’s when I set out to make my life awesome. And I’ve never looked back.
It’s been nearly 10 years since my senior year when I first took that weight-training class. It’s been 10 years since I read that article by JB and understood that I could actually change the way I looked and felt. 10 years since I realized that if I invested in myself and took control of my behavior and my body that I could live an amazing life.
Since then I’ve started a couple businesses and written a couple books. I’ve built strong relationships with interesting, influential people. I’ve spent time with loved ones and have gone on amazing adventures all over the world.
But most importantly — and definitely most rewarding — is what I’ve helped build here at S2B with the rest of the coaches, guys who have all experienced the same body and life transformation that I did.
Why S2B Exists
Our mission is to give guys everywhere that holy-shit-my-life-is-awesome experience by helping them build a body they can be proud of.
That’s our mission because every one of us at S2B knows what it feels like to be unhappy with our bodies. We know what it’s like to want more out of our daily lives than simply going through the motions. We know what it’s like to feel small or unsuccessful.
And we know what it’s like to get past all that. We know what it’s like to build a bigger life, a body we’re proud of, and the foundation to do what we love.
That’s why we’re here. That’s why we coach hundreds of guys every year.
That’s why we give a shit.
Thanks for reading.
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